Rachel Yampolsky @ The Agency Arizona
Enby culture is being confused on whether or not you should use binary terms to describe yourself!
(Ps whether you do or you don’t, you’re still incredibly valid!)
Hayden | 20 | US | infp | Slytherin | Twitter: @oreo5340 | genderfluid (they/them) | studyblr: hopeful-studies
Enby culture is being confused on whether or not you should use binary terms to describe yourself!
(Ps whether you do or you don’t, you’re still incredibly valid!)
Sensibly Named Child: Dad, what if the hat puts me in Slytherin?
Neville: Then it means you really are a Slytherin. Do you have any idea how hard I begged to be a Hufflepuff? How hard I argued with the hat against Gryffindor? And you know what, it turns out the hat was right and I pulled the sword out of the hat and killed the snake. It’s a magical hat and you’re an eleven year old who thinks Axe works to attract girls. You know nothing, listen to the hat.
there will be a moment when you realize you are more grown up than your parents are. this is the loss of childhood, my love. it is when you’re standing in the kitchen and one of your parents is screaming about something and you recognize: you will let them win the fight not because you are wrong, but simply because you know that they will keep shouting unless you drop the subject. you expect them to have childish understandings of things. they will hold onto their concept of the world as if it was not a changing thing. they must be right, and they must be somehow more right than you, always, in everything. their idea of control is so necessary to who they are that you just let it go.
this is the moment. you are 11 or 17 or 21. and you realize that you’re more mature than they ever were.
and in some odd, sad way, this frees you. where they have stagnated, you continue.
*sips coffee* what a beautiful day to remember that asexuality is real and what the A in LGBTQA+ stands for and that they are not straight but a part of the LGBTQA+ community
What a beautiful day to remember that the people who create the “ace people are straight,” the “bi people are straight,” the “trans people are misogynist,” etc. propaganda are trying to tear the queer community apart to make us all easier to pick off so if you’ve fallen for it or spread it yourself, you’re enabling people who want to do harm.
What a beautiful day to remember the Q stands for both Queer and Questioning, and that Queer isn’t a slur and also it’s okay to not really know what you are yet.
if you can’t manage a single night without your partner, you are unhealthily codependent
If you can’t manage an evening alone while your partner is out having fun, you are unhealthily codependent
The solution to this problem is not to prevent your partner from doing things but to get used to the idea that sometimes you have to be alone
Starfish the bed. Watch the worst movie ever. Take up painting. Knit. Masturbate. Enjoy your solo time.
Me and my boyfriend have our own bedrooms. And I always feel when I tell people this I always feel I need to justify it. We do usually sleep in the same bed, you know. We are a couple.
It was important for us both, as it turned out, that we have to have our own space. Some of the reasons are specifically poly, and some are not–as with most relationship advice.
-having somewhere to have other partners over without imposing on your live in partner(s) is useful
-it’s emotionally healthy to have a space that is just your own where you can shut the door on the rest of the world when you need to. Where you can keep your things and decorate it however makes you happy.
-being able to easily have space during disagreement helps head off arguments
-being able to “stay over at your partner’s place” even when you live together keeps it feeling fun and exciting
-making a conscious decision to share a bed each night is a good way to practise informed consent, and makes it easier to have a night to yourself when you want to without it feeling like a slight on your partner
-being able to close the door on your partner’s mess means no more arguments over dirty socks on the floor
I appreciate we’re lucky that we have the money and the space to do this, and not everyone can. But I think being able to choose to spend time together is far more romantic than being in an enclosed space together.
(but if you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what you need)
The thing about being poly is that even though you can love many people, it doesn’t mean that you still get all that you want. Not every relationship will be as involved as you wish it would be.
But please, don’t miss out on what you do have by have worrying about what you don’t. Someone you see occasionally is better than someone you don’t see at all. A friend you wish was a lover is at least not a stranger. Don’t tar your best memories with resentment that someone is gone. Someone amazing crossing paths with you is an incredible thing, be grateful for what you have.
Treat everyone you meet as a blessing, enjoy whatever you get and don’t get hung up on needing more.
“skip dinner and become thinner” more like “skip dinner and you have an eating disorder please get help”
“a moment on the lips, a lifetime on the hips” more like “a moment on the lips is okay to have, please take care of yourself in this lifetime”
“every time you eat you delay becoming skinnier” more like “every time you eat you give your body the nutrients it needs in order to survive, please keep surviving”
“you’ll be able to wear whatever you want when you get to your ugw” more like “you’ll be able to wear whatever you want now because fashion =/= weight”
“Don’t reward yourself with food your not a dog” more like treat yourself because you’re amazing and deserve happiness
This is actually really helpful thanks
I love this post for how it politely demolishes destructive pro ana/mia mantras i love it
“if you can pinch an inch” congrats you have skin and flesh like all humans
I… I… thanks… for sharing this cause I needed a lot.. hopefully anyone who follows me and needs can benefit from it too…
I really wish this was a thing I saw a few years ago, but I’m glad it’s circulation is moving strong. Just like you my wonderful followers <3<3<3 be brave darlings, I believe in you
Take care of yourself, guys. Eating is good for you, your body needs it or it will shut down. If you feel like you need to get healthier or lose weight, there’s tons of ways you can do that, that doesn’t put your body in danger. NEVER STARVE YOURSELF
